26 ian. 2013

”What do you really want?” Tim Gallwey (1)


Tim Gallwey, in an interview I took three years ago:
Q: As a “grandfather-coach in progress”, what would be a question from a “niece” for you to grow?
A: Same old question – “What do you really want?”

Today is his birthday. God bless him.. further, I should say.


The interview was published in COACHING NETWORK, 
the only Romanian magazine on coaching.
I put it on this blog, but here you are it in English.

part 1 (it is a long interview :))

1.    People had being always coached one way or another. What was new in your approach with Inner Game? You know there is a rock band Modern Talking. Are you the “soloist” of  Modern Coaching?

a.      Modern coaching must contain the elements of excellence of ancient coaching.  Socrates is a good example of modern coaching.  Modern coaching should be as simple as the principles that have always been effective.  Developing the trust and respect with those you are coaching are ancient principles that are still true.  I would advise modern coaches to continue to increase their facility for honest inquiry in a way that helps those being coached to think for themselves.  The coach must trust the coachee so that the coachee can increase their trust in themselves. 

b.    Having said that, the modern coach must encourage a new kind of accountability as well as empowerment.  Some have learned the ways of empowerment of employees of an organization – a skill set that is much needed when the employee is feeling disempowered and victimized by the larger organization.  But empowerment must now be balanced by accountability not only to those in the organization but to oneself.  Accountability can be re-defined as the ability to be counted upon. 

c.     As far as being a soloist – I’m the only one who can sing my heart’s song.  In that sense everyone should be a soloist and keep their coaching relevant to both the age old needs as well as to those needs that are more current.




2.    How did coaching evolve? What do coaches have to preserve while experiencing new tools or coaching models?

a.     I hope coaching is evolving towards helping those coached be more aware, clearer about their commitments, and more trusting in their better selves.  Tools can always evolve that help people move in the direction of desired outcomes in a way that is fulfilling and in a time that is satisfactory.



3.    In one of your interviews you said that people are doing that or that in order to “have fun” and you assert that empirical way is the only one that works. What could be a physiological (neuronal) support for what you call “magic”?

a.     In my view what I call Self 2, the innate potentialities of human beings is always magical when not surpressed or distorted by Self 1, the critical, imposing, controlling self that has been conditioned to interfere with the excellence of Self 2.  You can see this magic in any young child, can’t you?  Also in any adult who overcomes the self- interferences of Self 1 for a given period of time. 

b.    I have been told by reputable neuroscientists that this view finds evidence in the latest brain research.  But I cannot speak to this with authority.  My evidence lies in the domain of observation of clients. 

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